When you meet someone for the first time and they ask "So tell me about yourself..." or something along those lines, what do you say?
How do you describe you?
Is it by what you do? By your relationships? Your work place? Your marital status? Your kids? What is it, or what number of things make up your identity?
I still find this question hard to answer. Because while I can tell you "things" about myself, I am easily stumped by the task to paint you an authentic, genuine picture of just me... not what I do or who I am associated with. See the difference?
I am on a mission to find the genuine picture of just me. And here is what I have so far:
- Sensitive & discerning
- Anal retentive
- Detail orientated
Do you know that most of the things on this small list were not evident a few years ago, and a few things that aren't on the list were. This tells me that we are often evolving, hopefully going from strength to strength (but sometimes not so much).
Another thing that has shifted in me is, the positive things outweigh the negative... Or perhaps I just don't focus on the negative so much. Either way I have learnt that what you believe about yourself, is what you see.
What does your list look like? Who are you, when you put aside all the "noise" of social media, the talk of career and status, association and relationships... what is left?
I encourage you to take a moment to write a list. What you find might not be pretty, but it is the beginning of something great. Because how can we evolve in a positive way if we are not aware of our starting point?
Make it a goal, not necessarily right away but a work-in-progress, to shift your list from being primarily negative, to mostly positive. And the only way to do that, is to keep focussing on what is important -- your belief about yourself; you as a person, your character -- not how you look, not what you do, not who you are with. It is a shift in the paradigm of what seems so natural to us, a push against the norm, a grate against the grain. But who wants to be blinded by what is merely socially acceptable or normal? Who wants to just bob in the stream of mass-produced ideals where "likes" are king and "friends" are virtual, marriage is fleeting, relationships are shallow and you are a shell of a person because when you look in the mirror you tell yourself you're not good enough, you need makeup, you need to loose weight and your nose is too big?
Let's chase something different.
Love Heids Xx