Introducing Emma Scally, a brave soldier on the front line of body image battles! We are excited to welcome her here today as a contributor to the Blussh blog. We trust you will enjoy reading about her journey, while receiving some great little deposits of wisdom for your own travels through these sometimes cloudy and murky waters of life. We love celebrating women who have their own story, and are willing to share it in the hope to empower anyone along the way. So be inspired today ladies! Xx
Hi, I’m Emma, a Health Promotion and Interior Design and Decoration student living a roller coaster of a life in Perth, WA. My interests include plant base and sport nutrition, running, yoga and fitness in general, travelling, personal growth and other aspects of wellbeing.
My life began in rural WA where I grew up with my loving family. I spent my childhood playing every sport possible, riding horses, spending time at the beach and hanging out with friends and family. From the outside everything appeared to be rosy however from a young age I developed body image issues and a dislike for my body. As a perfectionist I was rarely satisfied, I was constantly looking for ways to improve who I was and how I looked, which created in me a self destructive, unhappy person allowing negative thoughts to dictate my life.
Negative thoughts would tell me I was fat, not pretty enough, not worth the effort, I’m wasting other peoples time and the list goes on. Even though I have come a long way on my journey there are still times when these negative feelings cloud my mind. However I am excited to say, it's not all doom and gloom, because over time I have become stronger and better at finding a positive outlook in life. But I would love to share a little more about my story with you today, so hopefully you too can start a journey towards being healthier, whole and happy!
As a teenager I spent a lot of time trying to find a quick fix for my unhappiness and dissatisfaction by subjecting myself to restrictive diets, buying new clothes, taking the easy road, trying anything that would bring instant gratification or distract me from my own negative thoughts... but I was ignoring who I was as a person and these short term fixes never brought long term happiness.
At the beginning of this year I made the decision to change. I wanted to be a better version of myself, and did not want to spend any more time crying over, or struggling with self esteem issues... I wanted a different vision for the rest of my life. I had to stop letting my external appearance dictate how I felt about myself or my perception of how others saw me, loved me and accepted me. The other unhealthy habits were no exception, and had to go. No more unrealistic diets, comparing myself to others, spending hours exercising which would only lead to episodes of high-sugar-food-binging, and no more wishing my life away dreaming of being thinner and prettier based on societies celebrity standards.
The reason I came to this turning point, was from a bit of a revelation after what I thought was meant to be a feel-good trip overseas, volunteering and travelling in India; a trip to help others that was suppose to make me feel better about myself. However when I returned home, I was down in the dumps. I looked backed at the photos of all the amazing places I went to and the people I met along the way, and instead of feeling accomplished and proud, I felt disappointed at how I looked in those photos. I hated myself for not having more self-control over what I ate and not spending more time exercising and I felt empty inside and disappointed at myself for not embracing the opportunity I had been given.
After feeling this way, I suddenly wanted to do something about this perpetual negative cycle, so decided to create some short and long-term goals to establish who I was and how I wanted to live my life. I knew I needed to let go of the issues that were making me feel worthless, put away the past and the hatred I had for myself and others who I believed had let me down. I realised that comparing myself to others was a dead-end, because we all have our own unique journey to live out. Suddenly I was enthusiastic about trying to accept my body, to not let social media dictate my worth and to develop some self love. I knew I had a lot of work to do, and one of the first steps was to learn to let people into my life and to accept help when I needed it.
I am not yet at the end of my journey and as I stumble through this crucial life lesson to believe in myself, I hope I can encourage others to take a brave step towards achieving their dreams. I have learnt to take time to acknowledge and celebrate the good days and accept the bad days without letting them dictate the future. I am truly convinced that we must love, believe and accept ourselves and not worry about what everyone else is doing.
So I want to encourage you right now, this is your time to shine and life is too short to spend another day at war with yourself.