Do You Ever Worry That You're Not Good Enough?

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I do. I worry about it quite a lot actually. It really concerns me that I'm not as good as I used to be at certain things... If I catalogued them at length, I'd get sad, so I'm not going to.

Instead, I'm going to share a story that somebody told me. It really helped me to reframe my insecurities. It goes like this:

A person comes up to you at the park and asks if you wouldn't mind participating in a survey. They are measuring how far people can throw. 

"Sure", you say, "no problem."

You take the ball they give you, and throw it. It goes a certain distance. The person takes out a tape measure and measures the length of your throw. They write it down, thank you for your time, and go to walk away. But as they do, you ask them, "excuse me, so... with that throw I did, was it good?"

"Well, how do you mean?"

"Like, was it a good throw?"

The person is visibly confused. They don't get it. And yet they are enlightened. Why?

When you think about it, the question you asked doesn't make any sense. What makes a throw "good"? Is it good if you can throw further than just one other person? If you're better than the average thrower? The best out of everyone? Perhaps the fourth best on a day when a disproportionately large number of people surveyed were cricketers? What, exactly?

The point is, it's irrelevant. It's arbitrary. It doesn't matter. And it applies to so many things. Our marks, our salaries, our weight, our recent half marathon time...

I'm getting to the point where I don't care any more about this sort of stuff. I used to measure everything about myself. Now I'm throwing those thoughts away. As far away as possible. But maybe not as far away as the next person.

Just some food for thought.
Sarah Carman :)