One of the many reasons I love being a woman is because of the sheer strength we often find in ourselves when faced with a hardship. I mean, you just have to think about the millions of women who have given birth and you know, we've got something going on there (something that a man will never know anything about)!
This strength almost always surprises me, as it rises up from a deep place without warning, often in contrast to my emotions at the time. I enjoy celebrating this strength in other women too, especially loved ones who are going through a tough time. It inspires me to the core when I notice a friend or family member suddenly grasp something seemingly beyond their capacity, and pull-through in great strength of character and perseverance.
We are incredible creatures - us women. We have so many facets to our beauty and strength is one of the greatest. But the beauty about our strength isn't defined in the same way it is for a man. A man's strength is completely different to that of a woman's. Ours seems to be a combination of emotion, stirred by what we might often feel weak in yet refined by an unyielding determination to fight for what we hold dear to our hearts. It is that unassuming strength that emits from our gut, in some of the most vulnerable moments in our world.
We don't have to be tough all the time to have this girth of strength. In fact that is what makes it so special - it is despite our fragile nature. I honestly believe that a woman who can accept her greatest shortcomings while having the confidence to know who she is, see where she is going and determine to be a better person is a much stronger woman than those who don't admit they are feeble at times.
With the rise of feminism, I think some of our true strength may have been tampered with - or perhaps it was exposed, leaving us feeling like we need to constantly have strength on display. I believe this actually takes away from our strength; we aren't built like a man and to always appear strong is draining and actually chips away at our true nature. There is such great virtue and splendor in a woman who can be comfortable with her vulnerability, knowing it doesn't affect her place in this world, her worth, significance or importance.
Whether we are exhausted from feeling the need to appear strong all the time or we are lacking in the area, we all have the ability to find that inner strength. We just need to value it, know that it is a sacred beauty, always there to undergird us when we need it most.
Brené Brown articulates the power of vulnerability perfectly in a talk at TEDxHouston, where she shares a deep insight from her research. Watch it here... Truly inspiring!
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