The Royal Wedding... and Then What?

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Prince William and Catherine Middleton are getting married and I am sure it will be quite the event. Could you go as far as saying it will be the 'wedding of the decade'? With its own website, live stream and twitter account, I think it warrants such a title!

There is a lot of anticipation leading up to this celebration. Talk about your dream day! This wedding, I think, will be far from dull and cheap. I often wonder about the quality of high profile weddings these days and if that quality is reflected in their actual day-to-day relationship/marriage... Have the subjects of this occasion invested into their relationship that of the same value they have placed on their wedding? I often hear girls talk about weddings as though they are the 'be all and end all' of a relationship. But what happens after the wedding? Think about how much time and effort we spend dreaming, planing and thinking up just one day! Imagine if we put all that effort into our relationships...

Someone once told me that the wedding day is merely just a spec in the big picture. Yes it is lovely, fun, memorable and important - significant even. It is the start of a huge journey, the mark of a new life. But why do we always get so caught up in just that one day and forget to plan the 'rest of our lives' part of the equation?

I used to dream about my big day ever since I was a little girl (a pretty common practice for women). When that big day came I suddenly realised the importance of that little phrase 'rest of our lives', and how insignificant just one day seemed in comparison. Don't get me wrong - I love weddings and I think they hold immense value but only because of what comes afterwards!

Today, I know it takes a lot of input; blood, sweat and tears, to make a marriage work. The fairy-tale wedding can not prepare you for the 'happily every after' (or lack there of in some cases). Marriage is such a powerful thing, but when the focus is taken off the actual relationship and placed on other things, marriage becomes disempowered and quite fragile.

The trick is to keep your focus on what really matters and put in that same passion and exuberance into the relationship that you would in planning the wedding. Let it balance out though - you have the rest of your life to work on it so take it a day at a time. Don't be afraid to reflect, prioritise and constructively criticise your connection. One last tip - know your boundaries, communicate them to each other and respect them!

Good luck to the royal couple. I really hope their wedding is a doorway to a happy, strengthening and love-filled marriage.

Love Heids Xx


Heidi Lakin

Heidi Lakin is a new mum to the beautiful Emera (born June 2012) and wife to best friend, Chad Lakin. Her story is not uncommon, having struggled for over 10 years with self-image issues that developed into eating disorders, depression, obsessive compulsive behaviour and anxiety. Her success in overcoming such perplexing battles is less common, which is why she founded Blussh - an online initiative that focuses on equipping women to find their sense of worth and committing to a life of freedom. Heidi has a vision to help women through such issues, but more importantly to help prevent poor body-image, self-doubt and everything that follows, in our young girls.